Just Face It, Your Kids Think You're an Artefact
How to Create an Emotional Bond with Your Child
Helping Kids See Their Big Picture
Teach your Child to Give Respect
and They Will Gain Respect in Return
Just Face It,
Your Kids Think You're an Artefact
Do you remember when you were young and you felt like you would never grow up? Thirty seemed like a really old age and you would not have to worry because it would take forever for you to get there anyway.
You also thought your parents were artefacts who must have been born in the Stone Age. They had no clue about what you liked and what kind of problems and issues you faced every day in life.
Well, you did grow up, and quickly. Now you are over thirty and have a couple of kids who are getting to be the age you were when you thought that about your parents. You, however, have made a conscious effort to keep your kids from thinking that you and your spouse are artefacts.
But it is not going to work, not matter how hard you try. You can think you are an amazing parent who totally understands what your kids are feeling and going through because you went through it to at a time. But they do not think that way.
They think you are an old geezer who would not understand what they are going through in life even if it bit you in the pants. Do not fret about it. It is a common result of having kids who are growing up and they will also have kids who will treat them that way someday.
It is human (or kids) nature and it is futile to try and stop them from feeling that way.
The best way to go about it is to simply acknowledge that yes, you are artefacts and you have no idea what is going on with their lives. Then let them try to figure out their problems on their own and eventually come back to you for guidance.
Trust this fact, it will happen sooner or later.
The most important thing is to remember that your kids do love you but they are going through that stage when they are too cool for everything and life is the most unfair piece of work ever. Those feelings will pass and eventually you will be best friends with your children again.
However, for now, let them think that they are the most amazing and smart people in the world who can figure out everything for themselves. Remember, you are just artefacts who would not know a real problem like they have and you could not possibly understand what they are going through.
Instead, simply sit back, relax and smile as they go through the teenage drama that all kids go through and laugh and say that you told them so when they ask you for advice.
Then someday when they have their own kids, they will come back to you and say how their kids do not know anything and you can remind them of their past and have a good laugh.
Welcome to the unpopular parent club!
Population: every parent in the world.
How to Create an
Emotional Bond with Your Child
One of the most powerful tools that parents have for raising their children is the natural emotional bond that exists between them and their child. Children who feel close to their parents will have a strong desire to obey them. No child with this type of connection to his parents will want to risk hurting that connection by disobeying them.
When such a relationship exists, the mere look of dissatisfaction on the face of a parent will usually be enough to curb inappropriate behaviour. This bond is so strong and so potent that it lasts even through adolescence when most of the disciplinary tools at our disposal are ineffective. Often, it is the only tool we have in guiding our teenage children.
Parents who do not have such a connection with their children have lost a vital resource necessary for successful parenting.
In addition, this bond is essential for the child's emotional stability. A recent psychology experiment studied people in their forties, whose parent were emotionally distant from them. These people were often depressed and lacked a sense of emotional wellbeing. They had more difficulty in adjusting to the work environment and new social situations.
How do you develop this type of loving bond with your child? It begins in your child's infancy and is built by giving your child the love and affection that he needs.
Many well-meaning mothers are completely unaware that their own children are suffering from the lack of physical touch. There are many reasons for this. Most people associate deprived children as those who are neglected, abused, or chronically ill. However, the truth is that many of our children who come from good homes are not getting the physical warmth and love that they need.
In our two-income society, unaffectionate caretakers, who provide for the child’s physical needs with as little warmth and contact as possible, often raise children. Also, many of us did not receive enough physical love and warmth as children. As a result, it is not natural to us to cuddle, coo, kiss, and love our children affectionately.
In addition, some children naturally need more physical warmth. These touch-deprived children fill our schools. They are the ones who often look sad and depressed, suffering from not getting their physical needs for contact.
The United States is one of the richest countries in the history of the world. Yet, our children in general are touch starved. We are busy with our lives and our careers. We often raise our children in broken homes. We as parents are suffering under the burden of so much physical and emotional stress, that we are often just glad to make it through the day without hitting or screaming at our children.
Who has time to give them affection? Yet, this is what our children crave most from us. We fill our houses with toys and things for our children, but it is us that they really need.
There is much talk about the generation gap. We all know that adolescents naturally rebel. Sometimes we look at our little children and wonder what is going to be in ten years when this cute little four-year-old turns fourteen.
Will he be one of the children who abuses drugs?
Is he going to steal?
Is he going to do worse?
What is going to be?
You need to take the time now and give your child the physical warmth and love that your child needs. If you build strong bonds of love with your child now, while he is still young, then all these problems that you read about, will be just that; things that you read about.
You will not experience these problems in your own home, because you have developed a strong relationship with you child.
Author: Anthony Kane, MD
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Helping Kids See Their 'Big Picture'
As a father of five daughters, as well as being an educator within my area's school district, one of the most difficult experiences that I have found is getting kids to see their 'Big Picture'. I reference the 'Big Picture', as it relates to one's educational and economical futures and the positive steps that are vital to ensuring a comfortable existence.
As an educator, I have found that the inability of many, if not most students to succeed in school, is often directly related to their getting a solid start during the earliest of their formative years at home prior to even attending pre-school.
Many parents, whether not wishing or having the time to commit to do so, or due to a lack of confidence, forego instructing their pre-school children in the very basics of skills, i.e., Math, English and Reading comprehension. These particular parents, otherwise, rely exclusively on the school system.
While on one hand, this is the purpose of schools, on the other hand, students should already be somewhat prepared and familiar with the basics of the aforementioned areas in an effort to already have lain educational groundwork.
What would first be even ideal is at some point, either our government, a private entity, or even communities should take the worthwhile challenge of creating proactive programs that instil in parents themselves, the importance of "educating" their children prior to their official schooling. This would, undoubtedly, set the proverbial stage for future learning as well.
However, in our own school district, and I venture to say many others, there is a significant learning disparity between students in many classrooms. Many instructors are, practically, required to teach on several different levels simultaneously within any given class. And, this can be extremely frustrating for both teacher and students.
For the teacher, this matter takes on a certain degree of stress in watching some students struggle with grasping the content and attempting to keep up with the rest of the class.
It is equally frustrating for both the student who has an easy grasp of the course work and must wait for other students to "catch up," as well as frustrating for the struggling student.
And, it is also unfortunate that many districts find this problem so overwhelming that they choose to turn blind eyes and deaf ears to the matter and not address it instead of dealing with it head-on through reorganization and restructuring.
And, while it may be too late to reach some students in latter grades or who have already graduated, in order to ensure that our future adults and citizens are productive as a result of having gotten the 'Big Picture', a grassroots movement should be immediately implemented per the following steps.
- Parents should recognize at their child's earliest signs of comprehension, i.e., counting, speaking. This can be recognizable as early as one year of age but usually occurs at approximately two years of age.
- Parents should then take a proactive role in ensuring that their child can count in basic mathematics, as well as start working with them on sounds and comprehension, and how they relate to the printed word. Having this basic groundwork instilled, when a child arrives in school, he or she has a good overall understanding and a much higher confidence level in being able to assimilate and compete with peers.
- Not every student has an interest in attending a four-year university and becoming a chemist, engineer or architect. As a result, and while some schools are already doing so, more schools should consider organizing more internal programs that cater to a diversity of industries and interests, albeit, in a general introduction capacity. The general "blue collar" service industry is a great example that could be implemented with various subset programs.
Societal Economic Outlook:
Overall, the better students are educationally prepared "from the ground up," so to speak, in their own vocational interests, interests and desires, the more productive and contributing citizens we will have in our society.
Additionally, we will experience the peripheral benefit of individuals who are extensively familiar within their chosen fields while also dramatically reducing the number of "field hoppers," which is my own coined term of people who constantly change careers. Much of such, again in my opinion, reverts to a lack of a strong initial foundation and interest focus.
Author: Kenny Love
Teach your Child to Give Respect
and They'll Gain Respect in Return
One of the most important things you can teach your child is respect and the best way to teach respect is to show respect. When a child experiences respect, they know what it feels like and begin to understand how important it is.
Keep in mind the saying;
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
Respect is an attitude. Being respectful helps a child succeed in life. If children don't have respect for peers, authority, or themselves, it's almost impossible for them to succeed. A respectful child takes care of belongings and responsibilities, and a respectful child gets along with peers.
Schools teach children about respect, but parents have the most influence on how respectful children become. Until children show respect at home, it's unlikely they will show it anywhere else.
How can you show respect to your child? If you do something wrong, admit it and apologize. Don't embarrass, insult or make fun of your child. Compliment them and let your child make choices and take responsibility. Listen to your child's side of the story before making a decision on an issue or problem. Be polite and use "please" and "thank you" when asking them to do things. Knock before entering your child's room. Keep promises. Show your child that you mean what you say. And give your child your full attention.
And most important, teach your children that respect is earned. Make sure that you are leading by example and modelling respectful behaviour. Be a law-abiding citizen. Show concern for your environment, animals and other people. Openly and honestly discuss examples of witnessed disrespect.
In addition, teach your child to respect themselves. Self-respect is one of the most important forms of respect. Once we respect ourselves, it is easier to respect others.
Help them set and achieve goals. Encourage honesty and teach them that people make mistakes, and that they are the best way to learn.
Most importantly, praise your child often for good deeds, behaviours or traits, and tell them you love them at least several times each day.
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